How to Gain Perspective

How we see things is not how they really are

Have you ever looked at something through your left eye and then through your right? Playing a proverbial game of hide and seek with our point of view often reveals what images we choose to see over others. Our vision is as reliable as our brain allows it to be. In most cases our minds have already shaped the reality we see ourselves in and being able to see differently, let alone change our perspective is as hard as changing how our brains are wired.

Perspective is an illusion.

Never trust people who say they are open minded. There is no such thing as a mind that is fully open to a new experience or point of view. Most of us are stuck in patterns of behaviour minted in our subconscious mind from our early childhood. As adults we reinforce behavior, point of view and frame of thought in an ever ending cycle of erase and repeat; thinking we’re growing or experiencing our world in a different way, but our minds have to work twice as hard to really, REALLY see the world and our place in it, in a different light.

We see what we want to see.

To see things as they are is different for each and every one of us. I will always gaze at a blue sky with the mind of someone who grew up near the Mediterranean sea. That shade of blue is unique only to that part of the world and no matter what; blue skies everywhere else will be compared to that, even though we’re all under the same sky as some neo-hippies would like to repeat, we aren’t.

Bringing Awareness into Seeing

Having perspective and being aware of your place in this earth is as primal as knowing how to kill our food before we eat it. Our instinct is for survival but our logical brain and our analytical brain is built to see beyond that. When people say “Use your Brain”, it’s literally making us look within, to control, discover and understand your patterns of behavior in order to alter what we see.

One Step at a Time

It’s not easy, no one ever said that perspective changes over night but if we don’t use these muscles, they will atrophy and then make us more stiff, physically and mentally.

Today make a committed effort to take time to observe further, stretch your brain as well as your body.

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Eleana Kouneli

A former dancer, current yoga teacher, writer, curious traveler and wild soul. My fuel and desire is to learn from others and spread healing and joy as I go. Follow my adventures and see where they lead you! All the stories are true, all the poems are real and all the writing is mine. Enjoy

3 thoughts on “How to Gain Perspective”

  1. Α huge part of ‘Reality’ is subjective. Education must impart the skills to distinguish shared and proven realities of science from hearsay, experience & belief.

    What I wrote earlier on the same theme!!

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  2. Eleana, I agree with your awareness and conceptual approach here. This of course is, basically, Special Relativity. What is real and perceived in “my” reality cannot be in yours. When I or you are with another individual or group “we” all agree the reality of our awareness is “real”. As you wrote, your . perception of many things, the sky for example, is based on your core memory, life experiences held in your/our [individual] subconscious. However we can re-program that script, if we choose to. We do this of course through new life experiences either purposely or through spontaneous experiences. These do not replace the core but build upon it. That, to me, is what makes life so interesting and I think you may agree as it still becomes awareness; being open to the endless possibilities that life presents us with.


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